Jay Menes 

Filipino Storyteller, Actor, Facilitator, Adventurer

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Become an Influential Communicator

Posted by Jay Menes on November 30, 2009 at 9:10 AM Comments comments (0)

1. Think before you speak – make a 2 – 3 seconds pause before you speak.


2. Say what you mean and mean what you say – make sure that your customer gets exactly what you promise and then some. Synchronize with your client’s expectations.

3. If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all – this will make good on you.

4. Donot believe right away 100% of what you hear and 95% of what you see – bridge to their heart. People want to be comfortable it means we have to do things we know will make people feel comfortable.

5. Say what they want to hear not what you want to say – this will confirmyou are in rapport with your client/customer.

6. Whoever asks the questions controls the conversation - ask questions to discover rules that define your customer’s values and to identify needs.

7. The mind automatically rejects facts, data and reasons – most people enjoy talking about themselves and probably don’t get to do this as often as they would like. Talk about their most highly held feelings and thoughts.

8. Assume nothing – find out what is most important to your client.

9. Give compliments generously – sincerely show respect for the person via compliment. Always be looking for things you like about other people. You cannot underestimate the value of a sincere compliment.

10. Say “please” and “thank you” as needed -

10 Tips to Improve Your Speaking Voice

Posted by Jay Menes on November 30, 2009 at 9:00 AM Comments comments (0)

1. Breathe from your diaphragm – Practice long and controlled exhales. When you speak, use breath to punctuate your point. For example, take a breath at the end of each phrase whether you need to or not. Use that opportunity to pause and let the listeners absorb what you say.


2. Use pitch – Lower pitches generally are more soothing to hear. However, modulating your pitch for emphasis will keep your listeners engaged. Develop your pitch by practicing humming.


3. Moderate your volume – Find out if you speak too loudly or too softly. When you begin speaking, ask your audience how your volume is (eachsituation is different). Try to stay at the appropriate volume throughout yourspeech.


4. Moderate your pace – This one is also closely related to breath. If you speak too quickly, people can’t keep up. If you speak too slowly, people will lose interest. Record your speech to determine if you need to change yourpace. Get feedback from others.


5. Articulate – Try exaggerating your lip movement to reduce mumbling. Practice articulating tongue twisters and extending and exaggerating vowel sounds. Become an expert at articulating tongue twisters as quickly and crisply as possible. Focus on the ones you find difficult.


6. Practice your speech in advance and determine where you want to pausefor a breath. For more emphasis, pause for more than one breath. Mark your breathing points in your notes.


7. Loosen up before you begin. Look side to side. Roll your head in half-circles and roll your shoulders back. Shift your ribcage from side to side. Yawn. Stretch. Touch your toes while completely relaxing your upper body, then slowly stand up, one vertebra at a time, raising your head last. Repeat as needed.


8. Posture – Stand up straight and tall to allow full lung capacity and airflow.


9. Record your voice repeatedly using different ways of speaking. Determine which one is most pleasing.


10. Practice breath control – Take a deep breath, and while you exhale, (count 1 to 10 or recite the months or days of the week). Try gradually increasing your volume as you count, using your abdominal muscles—not your throat—for volume. Don’t let your larynx tense up.



Posted by jaymenes on September 18, 2009 at 1:40 AM Comments comments (0)

For a more meaningful, remarkable and enjoyable storytelling time try these:


Tips on Storytelling Time

1. Master the eye contact – one, two, three beats counting on your mind.

2. Try to be interactive. Have some question and answer. Ask their suggestions

3. Be more relaxed.

4. Ability to smile. Smile relaxes the atmosphere.

5. Tell the story naturally. Let it come from a natural place in you.

6. Narrator’s variation – say then act, act then say or just say.

7. Pause before and after narrator’s line and character’s line.

8. Maintain the enthusiastic or excited feeling when telling the story.

9. Be creative – use props, costume, visual arts, puppets, toys, etc. if necessary.

10. Last but not the least HAVE FUN!

How to Choose a Book to Story Tell

Posted by jaymenes on September 18, 2009 at 1:35 AM Comments comments (0)

How to Choose a Book to Story Tell.


“I’m gonna tell you a story now but as any good storytelling knows, one must first be sure the audience is prepared… You ready, here we go!” (from the movie “Bedtime Stories” starred by Adam Sandler)


We all know in any school program it always include the Buwan ng Wika (Language Month), Book Month, English Week, Book Fairs and many others pertains to children’s literature.


The teacher encourages their students to grab a copy of their favorite storybook. And as they go along, reading sessions were already set to hear from each others stories. But we all know reading and telling starts in our home. Children will definitely choose the storybook that their parent usually tells them. Statistically it’s always the mother do the telling.


Storytelling promotes love for reading and love for books. And eventually prepares them for a more reading and researching as they further their studies. A child who is in the habit of listening to stories tends to be better in understanding about life because it sparks their imagination.


Albert Einstein says “The mind that opens to a new idea never comes back to its original size.”


Most stories have a problem to solve. It is then that we let them know that every problem has a solution. They can become a problem solver.


Here are some tips on how to choose a book to story tell:

1. Carefully read and study the storybook several times. Not just once, twice but several times. For us to know why the author writes the story particularly the words they’ve used and the story behind it.

2. Fall in love with the story – What do I love about this story?

3. Let the truth, lesson, values of the story teach you. We have different beliefs but let us look on the lessons that we opt to share with our kids.

4. Imagine yourself you are in the story (as if it’s your experience). Think of it as part of your childhood memories. You may also look at as if you are the actor.

5. Experiment with many different ways to see, hear and feel about the story’s details. See the beauty of the words, Hear the environment says. Feel what the character’s touching.

6. Practice visualizing the happenings in the story. Imagine the story as in like scene in a movie.


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